Greenlights – Book Review

Dear Reader,

I hope you are doing well.

I just finished reading Matthew McConaughey’s Greenlights. I had this book as an audiobook for a while at Audible. I was introduced to this book by Matthew McConaughey; he was invited to speak as a speaker for NSLS Speaker Broadcast and, as I am an NSLS member (NSLS is short for the National Society of Leadership and Success), I was privileged to hear him speak (as in during a virtual viewing and not in person).

If you are to read this book, I recommend to have a physical copy as well as the audio version. In other words, listen and read it at the same time. Otherwise, you will only get half of the story *wink, wink.* When I had started to read Greenlights, it was within hours of writing my blog on the word “nostalgia” (to read this blog entry, click here). I had written that blog entry at the public library. Before leaving the library, I decided to browse at bit. One of the books that were set in a way to view the front cover was Greenlights. I laughed because I said to myself, “Oh, yea! I was supposed to ‘read’ this book” (as in listen to the audio version). I’m glad I didn’t “read” the book until now. It’s a good one! It’s full of journeys, jokes, truths, and will even inspire you to look at life in a different way. It may allow you to see the difference between “living” and “livin.”

Oh! The reason why I brought up the word “nostalgia” is that the word is written within the first paragraph of Greenlights. Talk about signs!

Thank you for sharing a part of your life with us, Matthew McConaughey! 😉

Healing Relational Blind Spots – Pleaser, Controller, and Victim

Dear Reader,

Hello, there! I hope you are doing well. 🙂

Yesterday, there were three live presentations on the How We Love series. The past two are as follows:

  1. As A Man Thinketh… My Story – Vacillator
  2. …So Shall We Be – Avoider

Side note: To see the first presentation, forward about 15 minutes into the video. As I had written in the first blog, the presenter doesn’t only share his story but also shares foundations of attachment (i.e. comfort from caregivers, attachment, traits associated with children behavior, the vacillator imprint, etc.). For more information, please consider reading How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich.

Today, I am sharing the third presentation. To watch it, click here.

…So Shall We Be – Avoider

Dear Reader,

I hope all is well with you and yours.

Here’s part two of what I had written about earlier (to see the previous blog entry, click here). To watch the video about the avoider imprint from the How We Love series, click here.

Note: I have edited the link to reflect the recorded version of the video since the live streaming has ended.

As A Man Thinketh… My Story – Vacillator

Dear Reader,

I hope you are doing well.

I have seen in my stats that many of you have been interested in getting to know more about the vacillator from the How We Love series. There was a presentation done today by a vacillator. To see the presentation, click here and forward about 15 minutes into the video.

Note: The presenter doesn’t only share his story but also shares foundations of attachment (i.e. comfort from caregivers, attachment, traits associated with children behavior, the vacillator imprint, etc.). For more information, please consider reading How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich.

Unfinished But Complete

Dear Reader,

I hope all is well with you and yours.

This morning, I woke up recalling a dream that never finished. The fact that it didn’t finished is the theme of this blog. The type of dream I had is also related to the theme. I had participated in a painting contest that was a team effort. The team had finished their part but I wasn’t able to complete my portion to my liking. That’s the key word: to my “liking.”

Whenever I draw with pencil or charcoal, I like finishing up by smearing the lines that move from the darkness to light so the light will be given a distinctive space on the paper. With painting, I can imagine myself desiring to smear the colors where one color ended and another color began. Unfortunately, in my dream, I wasn’t able to smear the green, yellow, and white of the flowery design that was in between the nice black-to-blue and black-to-purple sky that consisted of constellations. Along with the daisy flowers on the portion I had painted, there was a girl sitting in the field of flowers while wearing a tutu with matching ballet shoes.

Saddened, I walked away while the female judge stepped away from one painting and came towards the painting my teammates and I had done. The rest of my team stood near the painting. One teammate stated I wasn’t feeling well so wasn’t able to finish. The female judge smiled and stated how the painting represented the feat of us humans, continually in the process of finishing. In the process of doing, creating, and being.

I woke up before I had found out if my team received first place. I like to think we did.

Sometimes, we often have a list of things we want to finish at the end of the day. And, because of this extra burden, we might feel disgusted with ourselves whenever it isn’t completed. However, if we are to look at the things we had accomplished, we could see the positive out of the situation instead of focusing on the negative. Either way we look at it, once the sun sets, the day is over. The day is complete. If we didn’t finish our list, life goes on. Another day will be born tomorrow. So, instead of looking at the list of things that didn’t get done, stand back and take in the view of the painting of the day to see what is actually there. What did you actually do instead of viewing what you didn’t do?

I hope this blog inspired you. Please feel free to leave a comment below or email me directly by using the email address that is found in the “About” section of my blog! 🙂

Nostalgia

Dear Reader,

I hope all is well with you and yours.

As I sit here writing this blog entry while in the library, I have a feeling of nostalgia tug on my heart. It is here where I had often sat to create blog entries when I didn’t have a personal computer. It is here where I often feel at home; surrounded by books. I remember one of the first books that prompted my interest in returning to a public library was finding origami books in the arts and recreation section of the library. Around this same time, I was also reading the famous The World of Peter Rabbit and Friends series by Beatrix Potter as well as the Frog and Toad books by Arnold Lobel. I also remember my cohorts also enjoying the Mr. Men book series during this time but it was at the school library instead of the public library. My classmates were basically addicted to them!

What started me on the journey of nostalgia? Last night, I had listened to the audio version of Brené Brown’s Rising Strong and she stated how the word “nostalgia” is broken down in Greek: “nóstos” means “homecoming” and “álgos” means “pain” or “ache.” When I read about “nostalgia” in my early twenties in A Trip to the Beach by Melinda and Robert Blanchard, I looked up the definition for this word. I didn’t receive the type of breakdown that Brené Brown had stated. Instead, had read the simple, and yet sweet, definition in the dictionary: (1) a longing to go back to one’s home, home town, or homeland; homesickness (2) a longing for something far away or long ago or for former happy circumstances. I often have the gentle nostalgia feeling like a sweet déjà vu experience. And it is never connected to something like Brené Brown had stated: revisiting the glorious days of maladaptive behavior (ex: kicking or fighting others when one was a teenager). It’s always something like a sweet and innocent childhood dream.

One of my dreams is having a sand box moment with a male friend. I never had the experience but, knowing someone for over 20 years and sharing many marbles (as Brené Brown had suggested to her daughter when seeing whom really is a friend) with him has defined him as a marble friend, just have this sense of feeling as if he has been there ever since I was about four years old. I picture us about this age and creating sand castles together. Then, when it is time to leave, we wave goodbye but not in a painful way but a reassurance that we will meet again. That is nostalgia to me.

When I hear the classical song The Pavane in F-sharp minor, Op. 50 by Gabriel Fauré, I both hear and feel the sense of nostalgia. It’s a feeling and viewing of fog that dances over the river. A hint of a light that shines through the fog while everything else looks blue is just heavenly.

When I started to read Soulful Simplicity by Courtney Carver, I had the sense of nostalgia. It’s because I had just finished watching Tidying Up with Maria Kondo series on Netflix and, behold! This author speaks of Maria Kondo. After reading some more in Soulful Simplicity, I also saw Brené Brown, Pema Chödrön, and Glennon Doyle (speaking of “shiny”) mentioned within her pages. These are the women who I had read about during 2021. Well, maybe I had read Glennon Doyle’s books a year earlier but often kept referring back to her in 2021. It wasn’t just these women but also the nostalgia of James Clear when Courtney Carver mentioned the concept of habit stacking. She didn’t say “James Clear” but I had read about similar concepts in the audiobook version of Atomic Habits by James Clear.

To sum this all up, what I have been reading recently and what my mind and heart continues to return back to is home and love. Love for self and others. This is where one can truly come home to. And, whenever you go out into the community and see the same love expressed, even if you are far away from your physical home, you can find a feeling of home here.

An Abundant Place – Book Review

Dear Reader,

I hope all is well with you and yours. I wanted to tell you about a book I had read. It’s a book written by two ladies who invite the reader to their living places: (1) by the ocean and (2) on the mountain top. I have already shared here twice about this book called An Abundant Place by Kathi Lipp and Cheri Gregory. Click on the following two links to read the other two blog entries:

An Abundant Place is the second book I read that was coauthored by Kathi Lipp and Cheri Gregory. Since I was previously acquainted with their penmanship, I knew what to expect: honestly with a dash of love. Although these two ladies live in the areas where people often spend money to adventure or vacate, they are not shy to tell the honest truth about the hardship of living in both places. Along with the hardship, there are jewels to be found. Jewels in both places. Both physically and spiritually. With their spiritual insight, they are able to share with the reader devotional thoughts that only take about five minutes to read. Even though the thoughts are simple, they are also profound. The reader is able to use a technique the authors call “creating space” to allow a deeper dive into the Biblical scripture that is found in each devotional thought. With such a practical way of applying scripture into ones daily life and the written visuals of two well sought places, how can one resist such a book?

For more information about this book, click here.

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3 Powerful Year In Review Questions That Will Set You Up For a Great Year Ahead

Dear Reader,

How have you been? I hope this year has been better than last year for you. If not, Marie Forleo has a recommendation before mentally “leaving” the year. Even if your year was great, it’s always a good idea to review prior to starting up something new! 🙂

Resting Is Okay

Dear Reader,

As I was reading from “An Abundant Place” this morning, page 115 stroke a cord in my heart. It’s okay to have an off season. It’s okay to just sit and do nothing. It doesn’t mean one is lazy. It means one is recharging. This often happens to introverts or anyone that become so over stimulated by sounds, visuals, etc. Having a quiet restful time is something our bodies and minds often need. May I suggest you getting a copy of this book to add to your downtime?

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