Tried East Indian Dish from TV

Wow! Just realized this blog failed to post a year ago:

I made a vegetarian version of an Indian dish I saw on the Create channel. First, you start with a half of a big onion (diced) and most of the garlic cloves of one large garlic head (diced). You sauté both items (in cooking oil) with diced tomatoes. While sauté, add chicken, turmeric, cayenne pepper, curry, and a teaspoon of salt.

Once everything is nicely soft, add about a half of a medium sized can of tomato sauce. Stir it. When it boils, add some water. I would say to use about a half a cup of shredded ginger root (maybe less, depending how much you love the flavor).

Simmer for about 20-30 minutes. Enjoy! It was good. We ate it with rice. Even my eight year old liked it. :)

Double wow! I just realized a similar blog was published on December 11, 2013. It was just missing the website where good recipes can be bought. So I guess my iPod saved the failed post.

Introvert and Extrovert

Hello Readers,

I was hesitant the last time I wrote to add the other myth but the topic of introvert and extrovert came up in class tonight. So, in a way, I saw it as a “sign.”

Myth #3: Introverts and extroverts cannot get along with one another.

My Reflection: Not all introverts can get along with themselves so to exclude that only an introvert is unable to get along with an extrovert sounds ludicrous! XD In other words, to change the myth to something more convincing, just say people cannot get along with one another. Period. No everyone is going to like you. That’s a fact. Be it if you are an introvert and an extrovert doesn’t like you or if you are an extrovert and an introvert doesn’t like you; people just cannot get along with everyone. This is reality.

But what is an introvert and an extrovert? Is this some made up mentality or is there a science to the difference? What I had found out from one of my classes, that the science behind the difference is where each gets their energy. Extroverts need people to energize them (they seek sensory) whereas introverts need time to reflect and find peace in their solitude after a high sensory event. Introverts receive so much sensory that it is important for them to get some “chill time” before another high-strung event.

So which one do you think I am? (Hint: what time of the day is it that I am writing this blog? *Wink, wink*)

What are your thoughts about this “myth?” Do you agree or disagree? Please share your thoughts in the comment section of this blog. I’m looking forward to the feedback! Thanks for reading.

Crisis as an Opportunity

Hello Readers,

After some more contemplation and after reviewing a response to my latest blog, I decided to return to my blog to add an addition to what I had written the night before. I only wrote to advocate a cause and not to cause people to get all emotional. However, if certain emotions did come to surface, it may be wise to consider why. In other words, please don’t take it personal and see the big picture.

The way I see it, I see this as a national crisis (will explain why soon). As I have learned in one of my classes, the two Chinese characters that are used for the word “crisis” symbolizes “danger” and “opportunity.” I see all of this as an opportunity for growth as a community. Please note the word “community.” My intention for last night blog was for communities to note the crisis and attempt to create a change.

The reason why I state it is a national crisis is because, in America, we strive for individualism instead of collectivism. Individualism is about self-determination and independence. Although these are “good” notions, it can often damage relationships. For example, a wife or a husband that may desire their independence from one another may loss the concept of “us” over time. As a result, they may conclude that divorce is the only way to resolve their situation. Collectivism refers to what is important for the betterment of others. Collectivists value “saving face” of the community, family, cooperate, etc. And, once again, this sounds “good” but there are also some disadvantages in this area as well.

How is individualism “damaging” relationships? Is this a key in understanding the Bystander Effect I had mentioned in my previous blog? If I had to write a paper in Crisis Counseling, I think I would have chose this subject because it intrigues me. As a community, I desire to hear input on this situation and I also desire to give feedback (i.e. advocate).

For example, my dear school counselors (I say “dear” because the load that you carry is phenomenal and I deeply respect that), would it help to go into elementary classrooms (or have a school assembly) and speak about the Bystander Effect in words that elementary students would understand? Just to say “don’t ignore the ‘quiet ones’ who seem distant in class,” would that make a difference? Or, another approach would be to “speak” to the “quiet ones” and say “If you need someone to talk to, my office is located [say place].” Unfortunately, for my case, I was unaware that school counselors even existed until I was a senior in high school. And, even then, my conversation with the school counselor was not a positive one (she seemed to have lacked multicultural competence).

Please allow me a moment to share some insights that may benefit those who will be counseling various cultural backgrounds, personalities, etc. There are many “myths” about how different we are as people. I would like to focus on what are common:

Myth #1: Some people just want to be left alone.

My Reflection: There is a time when “some people” need to be alone but I have a hard time believing the same people want to be always left alone. For those that are Christians, God has encouraged us to “strengthen thy brethren” (see Luke 22:32) and do not neglect the assembly of gathering together (see Hebrews 10:25). There is power in association. Whenever I feel down, the last thing I need to do is to remain by myself for a long period of time because I am only left with my own perspectives (side note: having only one perspective of an event may cause more harm than good). But when I view events from the eyes of others, I am able to view the world differently (I think God for my male friends!). This reminds me of Ecclesiastes 4:12: “And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

Myth #2: “Leave me alone” means leave the person alone forever.

My Reflection: Often this is the cry of someone that has been hurt by too many people that he or she has come to “rock bottom.” I will be honest with you, it’s rather hard not to take this message personal. However, because of my previous reflection, I understand that this individual must not mean forever. So what should we, as members of an society, do with people who scream out this response? Definitely not leave them alone forever. But when will there be enough time to approach them once again?

The final myth that will be left up for dispute is one that I am fighting to write down. So I think I will wait to write this one down. Any thoughts on what I have written thus far? Please feel free to leave comments on my blog. Let’s have some discussions. :)

Losses and Gains

Hello Readers,

Loss is something that one is unable to avoid. It comes through various avenues: friend(s), family member(s), school(s), neighborhood shop(s)/grocery store(s), toy(s), car(s), house/home, key(s), computer(s), etc. What have you lost lately? Whatever it is, getting through the grieving process can often be tricky and painful. I was only a few days old when my parents moved me the first time. I was born in Germany because my father was in the military. Then we moved back and forth for a while. I had to say “goodbye” to classmates, schools, teacher(s), etc. a number of times. This may be one reason that I realize more than others that classmates come and go.

Whatever the reason is, as I listen to Angela Milller’s compositions that are on MySpace (yes, I said “MySpace”—how I missed how it used to look before it tried to look like Facebook): https://myspace.com/foreverisstraightup/music/songs, I try to wrap my mind on how losses can effect one for better or for worse. *Think, think, think*

I believe so much losses in my life has caused me to become numb. Although this is a coping mechanism, I would hardly say it is a helpful one. It causes me to avoid reaching out to “new people” in one respect (I connect more when it is one-on-one). Ever since I can remember, in my elementary years, I failed to connect with my classmates while in the classroom. A few would try to greet me and I would smile back and look friendly. But when they attempted to talk to me on the first few days of school, I would look at them as if they were crazy. I mean, I was like “I don’t know you and you are telling me all of this? Wait and warm up to me, please.” But, sadly, they would get the clue that I didn’t want to have anything to do with them so they would turn and talk to someone else near by. And, for the rest of the school year, I would be left alone with no one to socialize with. I remember the deep pain every time I find myself in a classroom. The pain of being excluded from the entire class is something that has traumatized me. Thank God for my two cousins on my father’s side (who were in the same grade as I)! They were the “Good Samaritans” who caused a few others to flock towards me whenever they, as in my cousins, would converse with me.

So why am I sharing my story with you? It is definitely not for pity. I ask for none. I just find it an odd phenomenon that often happens in classes in general and I (1) wonder why it happens and (2) it needs to stop. Those that suffer for a whole year or semester while the entire class goes on without connecting socially with the excluded individuals need to wake up and start a change. I believe many teen TV shows, like One Tree Hill (i.e. Jimmy) have tried to spread this message. The question is “Are we listening to the message?” Many that feel the pain of exclusion is unbearable often take the matter into their own hands and, unfortunately, feel there is no other way but to bring guns into the schools just to execute others prior to taking their own lives. *Sighs*

Is there something research can do to spread light into this matter? The case that comes to mind is Kitty Genovese. Bystanders looked on while she was stabbed multiple times. This phenomenon has been called the Bystander Effect (Bystander Apathy): https://explorable.com/bystander-apathy-experiment. According to this experiment, individuals may think that someone else will intervene or that individuals don’t want to “give off negative images to other bystanders.” Another conclusion has to do with fear; fear of either being rejected when offering one’s help or fear “being outranked by a superior helper.” Here is the video my professor showed in class about the Bystander Effect: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OSsPfbup0ac.

Does any of these conclusions apply to classrooms who exclude one or more classmates from the social bubble? And what is there for someone to gain during such exclusions? For me, I have learned that people come and go. Cherish the here-and-now and do not hold grudges with those who exclude you because most of them have no clue they are actually doing this act. People in general get wrapped up in their own bubbles that they often forget to look out and see who may need a “hello” every once in a while. And, above all, become the one who looks out and say “hello” to some one who looks lonely. Learn the social skills to perfect this special gift of looking out of your world. And for those who need to gain the “extra eye,” please just take the time to “look out,” “stand out of the crowd,” and don’t be afraid to say “hello.” For the person you may say hi to just may turn out to be your future best friend. :)

Internship and Graduation Date Has Been Delayed

Hello Readers,

I have been very busy in creating my own personal library at home prior to starting the Crisis Counseling summer class at Southern Adventist University (in which I am currently on my first week of five). Therefore, although I had took the news well, I haven’t been able to update you all. I will not be doing my internship this summer. So I don’t have to hunt for any more internship sites until the winter semester. After reviewing the points I have collected from my peers and Clinical Practicum II supervisor, it was brought to my attention that I wasn’t given enough points to be internship-worthy. In other words, I will have to repeat Clinical Practicum II during the fall semester (while taking two other classes). This has also delayed my graduation date. I use the word “delay” because this was the graduation date recorded by Southern Adventist University; not me personally.

Why did I take this news well? I took out my frustration during Fall II semester; when my clients failed to return my calls or come into either the very first session or even to complete a third or fourth one. I also realized that I was behind in experience with my peers during this semester because many of them were able to get at least one client through (from first session to termination) while I had only seen the same client for a few sessions. I kept receiving new clients so that I may achieve my 20 direct hours. However, experience and training was lacking. I couldn’t get the experience of practicing such techniques I was being graded for through my peers and supervisor (hence the “points” system). So I want the training; be it through internship or clinical practicum. It doesn’t matter. But if I continue to get flaky clients, I will have to complain and ask for a solution. I will be assertive in this respect. I will not take a “no” for an answer because I need the training. If Southern Adventist University cannot help me in this area, then I will have to find another way to get the training.

My Autobiographies

Hello Readers!

Looking back make me smile. It also makes me realize how much of a Christian experience I have had! Reviewing my writings causes me to love Jesus more. :) I didn’t want to stop typing up more of my autobiography called “He Leadeth Me.” But I should stop and consider the fact that I need decent sleep for the next day. *Blushes*

My first autobiography that I had typed out on Microsoft Word is called “Be Thou My Vision.” It includes Bible studies (based on soul winning and women’s role in soul-winning ministry), poems, and personal testimonies (including my days at Hartland College). It was designed to strengthen the Christian walk. The next one is called “This is my Story!” and it includes my days at M.E.E.T. Ministry: from the time I had developed tendonitis to the time when my entire bill at M.E.E.T. Ministry was paid in full. The one I am typing up now is in a notebook I have saved since 2003.

I have given several copies of “Be Thou My Vision” away. I only ask for a donation of about $15.00 to pay for printing out the book (and binding) at a copy place (so I can pay for labor and to create two books for the price of one). This was when I was still creating newsletters with Women to Women Ministries so some of the profits went towards paying to make copies of this newsletter as well. I have never made any copies of “This is my Story!” just yet. And since I am still typing up “He Leadeth Me,” it will be a while for me to have that one ready for others to read.

The thought did occur to me to just make it available through the Internet. However, there is something about having a physical book that will be more of a commitment in honestly reading it. Plus, I can sign a personal note in the physical book (in which I don’t recall if I ever signed any of them just yet).

I had one of my autobiography books that I was in the progress of typing up on my belovedgeliebt Xanga blog; called “Day by Day.” But I got to a part of my story where I had “lost” this person (he told me to stop contacting me) that I never went back to finishing this portion of my life story. Unfortunately, policies at Xanga changed so I no longer have access to this blog unless I pay for it. So, I archived the blog instead and saved a copy of the blog on my computer. :P

Hmm… I should cut and paste those files and bind “Day by Day” in a book! But it’s not complete and so much time has past that I have forgotten a lot of the story. And because the lost was so traumatic, my memory forced myself to forget a lot of what was tied to that person.

I honestly should grab another notebook and write what is happening in my life NOW so I can, one day, write it all out and have another autobiography to type out once things in my life slows down (ex: done with school). Or I should look back and write my testimony of how I went so “left-field” in dabbling into Satanic stuff before I decided to choose God and let all that wicked stuff go. Only a few know about that and it’s such a powerful testimony. I should share it.

So, to sum it up, I have two autobiographies that are complete and ready for anyone to have if they are willing to donate money towards it. Unfortunately, I can only give it to you by hand and not through mail unless you are willing to pay for shipping. I love to share my autobiographies because I believe testimonies are what encourages us to hold on to the hand of God. Strengthening one another is very important in these last days. May we continue to encourage one another. This is my prayer.

Edit (May 14, 2015):

A few days after publishing this blog, I realized I had left out another autobiography I have written in a blue notebook: “Amazing Grace.” I never finished this one. It was a mixture of various experiences (missionary and personal) and my thoughts from my teenage years. It spoke upon how lonely I was despite being surrounded by others. Emotional abuse and learning disability were two words I had placed in this autobiography although I was never diagnosed with either. I don’t think I ever had plans on sharing this one publicly. It was more for self healing purposes.

Winter II Semester Almost Over

Hello Readers!

It’s been a while. This semester has been a busy one! I have Marriage and Family Therapy II with Dr. Coombs on Mondays, Child and Adolescent Problems and Treatment with Dr. French on Wednesdays, and two classes with Dr. Dickinson on Thursdays (Clinical Practicum II and Assessment and Appraisal). I also see a client on Thursdays at the Counseling Suite at Southern Adventist University. I am almost done with my direct hours for Clinical Practicum II so I am so grateful! It’s been a ruff ride between this semester and last semester that I thought I would not make it.

The month of February was a month of prayer. I had asked friends and family to join me with a month of fasting. I didn’t fast with food (as in taking something away). Instead, I had added to my weekly routine and took away one entertainment for that month. Prayers were answered with either a “yes” or a “no.” Within this month, we lost one of the counseling students. My fellow classmates and I were not able to get the details because of confidentiality reasons. But because of this event and two other events, there was a town hall meeting for the counseling students and two of the faculty members were present at the meeting. The director of the counseling program wanted to ensure us that Southern was not trying to hide anything from the students. Instead, they were protecting the people who were involved (confidentiality). The director also wanted to remind us the proper protocol of addressing a situation that we do not like and desire change (ex: the way a professor may run his or her class). For most of us, the town hall meeting was beneficial.

March was another busy month for me. Balancing time to continue to attempt to finish a class in progress (IP) from last semester plus the class requirements for the current semester was becoming stressful. I had to make a decision to try to continue to get four of the same counseling group members in five separate group counseling sessions or to accept my C grade for the class. The counseling group was a psychoeducation group: stress management. I entitled it “How to Handle Hot Soup” and we used the book Don’t Eat the Soup as Hot as they Cook It! by Cameron Johnston: http://www.amazon.com/Dont-Eat-Soup-They-Cook/dp/0968650414. It is a lovely book! I highly recommend it. Unfortunately, I couldn’t get the same four individuals to be in five sessions so I cancelled the group meetings. It started at the beginning of the semester. By the time I got to around the beginning of April, I rather focus on the papers that were due for this semester instead of attempting to write progress notes and a summary paper when I am so close to finals. If I had finished up the group at the beginning of April, there would have been less stress and less papers due around the same time. Plus, I received an email from Records saying that if my professor didn’t have my final grade for Counseling Group and Procedures class by a certain time frame, I would get an F for that class. :/

April is when a lot of papers for Assessment and Appraisal is due. So many Case Study Reports that I was barely able to begin writing an outline for my Assessment Instruments paper (10-page paper). It is due on Thursday and I am almost done with it (Hallelujah!). I finished my last Treatment Plan for Children and Adolescent Problems and Treatment as well as my last Book Critique for Marriage and Family Therapy II. Whew! It was getting to be a serious battle in keeping up with all these papers. I have my first final next week (Assessment and Appraisal). Then the following week, I have Marriage and Family Therapy II (Oral Exam) and Children and Adolescent Problems and Treatment finals.

I have two interviews for a potential interview site for this month. I wasn’t accepted at SkyRidge Westside. I emailed the gentleman who interviewed me to ask why I wasn’t accepted so I will know what I need to improve on. He never answered that email. I have my second interview with Health Connect America this Friday. I hope I get to do my internship there. I will be doing my internship during the summer and fall semesters. The other class I will have for the summer is Crisis Counseling.

I guess that should do it. Wow! Over 700 words? I had a lot to update about. I really should blog here more often. It’s just hard to when I have so much class work to do. :'(